Chemo Dating


I was told I should write something about my recent experience into the foray of online dating.  I have done it before.  Some with good success, some with horrible.  When I was first diagnosed I didn’t have any interest in dating.  Who would want to attach their life to someone with what I was dealing with.  It is an extra struggle to add into it.  But in January I decided to give another try.  I was starting to come to grips with what my future held.


So I started again on OkCupid.  Figured, what the heck.  Let’s see what happens.  If nothing else I can meet some fun, interesting people.  And sometimes that is a really good thing. 


Well the usual onslaught of “interesting” people left messages that made their intent VERY clear.  Hey, to each their own right?  I don’t judge even if that wasn’t what I was hoping to get out of the experience. 


I found this one guy that showed some potential.  So we started messaging a lot.  He is a fellow geek, foodie, not repulsed by the dirt a horse entails (ha funny pun!).  We talked about lots of geek topics!  Hey this is a good sign right?  But over time, the questionability of him started to show.  He didn’t do anything.  Over the month and half I messaged with him, the most exciting thing he did was go to a market.  He talked of all these things he wanted to do.  But they were always tied to doing it with “that special person”.  So life was on hold for him.  When I recommended that he do something fun with his free time, that was when the hidden “him” came out.  See the pictures below. *********




I was appalled.  All I said was a kind suggestion to go out and have a good time.  So I decided, I do not need this in my life.  I am trying to enjoy every moment. I don’t need someone who is going to fly off the handle at such things.  I really don’t. 




He knew my health situation.  Why would someone say “When you die, I hope you go to hell.” To someone that is going through what I am going through.  It just showed a vindictive nature that I REALLY didn’t need in my life.  I want someone who loves life.  That likes to have fun.  I want someone that brings as much exuberance as I have.  Then he had the gall to ask for a truce.  I told him there was no coming back from such a comment.  I can see it being said during an argument in person, it is still terrible but I can see it as an in the heat of the moment.  But this.. This just astounded me. 

I hope he has some luck.  It just won’t be with me.


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