I was told I should write something about my recent experience into the foray of online dating. I have done it before. Some with good success, some with horrible. When I was first diagnosed I didn’t have any interest in dating. Who would want to attach their life to someone with what I was dealing with. It is an extra struggle to add into it. But in January I decided to give another try. I was starting to come to grips with what my future held.
So I started again on OkCupid. Figured, what the heck. Let’s see what happens. If nothing else I can meet some fun, interesting people. And sometimes that is a really good thing.
Well the usual onslaught of “interesting” people left messages that made their intent VERY clear. Hey, to each their own right? I don’t judge even if that wasn’t what I was hoping to get out of the experience.
I found this one guy that showed some potential. So we started messaging a lot. He is a fellow geek, foodie, not repulsed by the dirt a horse entails (ha funny pun!). We talked about lots of geek topics! Hey this is a good sign right? But over time, the questionability of him started to show. He didn’t do anything. Over the month and half I messaged with him, the most exciting thing he did was go to a market. He talked of all these things he wanted to do. But they were always tied to doing it with “that special person”. So life was on hold for him. When I recommended that he do something fun with his free time, that was when the hidden “him” came out. See the pictures below. *********
I was appalled. All I said was a kind suggestion to go out and have a good time. So I decided, I do not need this in my life. I am trying to enjoy every moment. I don’t need someone who is going to fly off the handle at such things. I really don’t.
He knew my health situation. Why would someone say “When you die, I hope you go to hell.” To someone that is going through what I am going through. It just showed a vindictive nature that I REALLY didn’t need in my life. I want someone who loves life. That likes to have fun. I want someone that brings as much exuberance as I have. Then he had the gall to ask for a truce. I told him there was no coming back from such a comment. I can see it being said during an argument in person, it is still terrible but I can see it as an in the heat of the moment. But this.. This just astounded me.
I hope he has some luck. It just won’t be with me.